Attachment, Love & Relationships — Psychology Columns
Psychology columns on attachment, love, relationships, solitude, and anxiety. Grounded in classics from Bowlby, Fromm, Tennov, and Gottman, alongside contemporary clinical research.
Column 01
Love Is an Art
Erich Fromm argued that love is not a feeling that happens to you — it's a practice requiring will and skill. What are the four elements of loving?
From Erich Fromm's 'The Art of Loving'
Column 02
What Is Limerence?
Can't stop thinking about them? That might be limerence — Dorothy Tennov's term for the obsessive early stage of love, distinct from mature love.
From Dorothy Tennov & Helen Fisher's research
Column 03
Turning Solitude into Strength
Solitude and isolation are not the same. Anxiety isn't the enemy — it's a signal. A guide to inner freedom for the modern world.
From Kokami's 'Lessons in Solitude and Anxiety', Becker, and Winnicott
Column 04
The Four Relationship Killers
From Gottman's 30,000-couple research: the four communication patterns that reliably predict relationship breakdown — and how to counter each one.
From John Gottman's 'Why Marriages Succeed or Fail'
Column 05
Disorganized Attachment — Wanting Closeness Yet Fearing It
Wanting closeness yet fleeing from it — unpacking disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment, its origins, and how it shows up in adult relationships.
From Bowlby, Main, and clinical research